Our Difficulty in Love is related to an “Excess” of Psychology.

Eva Illouz is a professor of sociology at the Hebrew University of Jerusalem and the School for Advanced Studies in the Social Sciences in Paris. She wrote a book related to Love and what is not working in our Current Society.

(Why Love Hurts: A Sociological Explanation. Eva Illouz. Polity Press. March 2012. 300 pages.) (“Pourquoi l’amour fait mal”, d’Eva Illouz (Seuil). Is a book de-constructing the “Love Ideology and Pattern”) (Link)

When we are Over-thinking there is lot of reason that can be related to Physical and Psychological aspect, But for the Physical aspect we can mention, it’s globally cause of the fact we get lot of stress also generally linked depending if we are taking care or not about ourself, there is often signs about something is missing in our Healthy Lifestyle : Nutrition, Hydration, and / or Sleep.

If you look at this schema from “Anita Bean” regarding Hydration level and Fluid Loss impact during Exercise:

( Anita Bean – “The Complete Guide to Sports Nutrition” – https://anitabean.co.uk/my-books/ )

As previously explain we can see Stress and Hallucination are increasing more and more when we get dehydrated. Hydrating ourself is as much important and helpfull than Eating or Sleeping finally. All is affecting our Healthy Lifestyle that can impact our relationship around us with our loved one.

The Unique loved one (Ideal):

In a Political TV show in France name “Riposte” a Lady guest invited to discuss about Political topic came in the beginning of the show regarding to talk about herself in an Interview with “Serge Moati”.

The Lady explain her idea regarding partnership and love :

She basically explain : “Ladies” prefer to stay “The unique loved one“, she explain it is better to not keep anything, as object, pictures from previous or past relationship and better to delete trash or burn our old souvenir. (Note from health in your planet website : The lady talked only about ladies globally but we believe probably also the case for “Mens” also)

She explain that “It is very painful for current partner to find suddenly old pictures or object anything that can be related and showing interest for past, previous relationship.“

The Totem Idea :

In the same topic Psychiatric explain sometimes when a couple have to rebuild there love. one possibility for them as it is recommended is to create a sort of “Totem” for the Couple for themselves having something showing their love.

Finding old souvenir from past relationship is the “Exact Counter Act” this is the reason why we recommend to remove old pictures from past relationship.

A singer from the group named “Zoufris Maracas” in the song “Un Gamin” explain “There is no love without exclusivity” which is Idealy meaning but it explain the complexity and difficulty regarding relationship we are all building during our life and it explain also why we have better feeling in emotional stability depending our couple, context, trust and partnership.

French Singer named “Vanessa Paradis” in her song “Pourtant“. Mention also “J’ai incendier la boite mon coeur” I translate it as “I have burn The (My) Heart Box“. Meaning also destroying old souvenir from past or previous relationship.

Even if we have difficulty to separate ourself from previous relationship “Souvenir“. Removing old previous pictures anything related to old love story is always the best to avoid any issue with our current loved one. We might have doubt about it in the beginning but then, by rethinking about it twice, realising without regret it’s the best to do.

Friendship and Relationship Souvenir :

But if you start to sort every souvenir be careful also as the French Rapper named “Disiz La Peste” explain in his song : (The past as a “Small Museum”, I’m walking on to keep myself well, I keep them, I keep them, I keep them, my souvenir are pages on paintings) Translation from French version : “Le passe comme un petit musee, je m’y promene pour me faire du bien, je les guardes, je les guardes, je les guardes, mes souvenirs sont des pages sur les toiles” . Keeping old Pictures and Keep looking at them sometimes help to entertain memory without even noticing it’s also a nice way to keep contact with our friends and Family it give nice warm feeling after looking at them globally.

When we want to liberate ourself from past live or love story, the risk might be to trash to quickly all our old souvenir and regret it later. The best is to try to “Sort” everything and “Separate things” between “Love Relationship” and “Simple Friendship Souvenir“.

Keeping “Old souvenir” and past “Friendship” permit also to keep remembering about our past history that is also part of us. We say sometimes our friends are also a part of us. Only ourself can really know the limit between old Friendship and previous Love Relationship. The best is to do the right things for ourself and do not rush too quickly to avoid to regret it later on.

To find more information regarding, How is working our Memory ? And how to entertain it ? go on (Link)