How to make Teenagers understanding the process of “Bullying” to help them with Their Parents to React and Stand Against It?

Bullying following Cambridge Dictionary is :

• “The behaviour of a person who hurts or frightens someone smaller or less powerful, often forcing that person to do something they do not want to do”

Understanding the process of Bullying help us to react better with more Social Intelligence to avoid Passivity but then… also helping to Reduce Stress, Toxic Atmosphere, Generated Directly or Indirectly to everyone. We are all actors and responsible of this type of Situation.

Clémence Mary Publish in Liberation on the 17th march 2023 an article about the Thesis of Margo Deage to catch our attention on the Process of Bullying.

Bullying is basically as transforming a person as an “Human Shield” but “Margo Deage” whereas taking “Human Shield” idea or picture in her Thesis use the term of “Lightning Rod” which is making even more sense, getting even stronger and understandable to understand what occur in this type of situation.

The process of Bullying is a process very very complex to reduce and stand against

It create a sort of “Vicious Atmosphere” as “Vicious Cycle / Process” that everyone can suddenly be taken into and increasing stress and Toxic Atmosphere, as a Black Hole or … Tornado catching everything around.

It’s a process that is too difficult for only one person to revert because it’s like stopping Hearth Element as stopping Wind Tornado Water. It’s possible sometimes. But very difficult. Problem also is sometimes most of people do not notice or want to notice until the tornado or fire is on side of them.

The problem is also that everyone is getting stuck Mentally and Physically in this toxic situation.

Mindfulness Teacher explain us when you start to see there is Fire you have to intervene quickly otherwise the Fire can get completely out of control.

There is always a way to reduce and avoid wrong Toxic Process. Reverting a Toxic atmosphere is something Virtuous for Everyone. ( Not only Few Peoples ).

Extract from French Newspaper Articles :
Liberation Articles By Clémence Mary Publish on the 17th march 2023:

At the end of December and the beginning of January, the respective suicides of 11-year-old Amber and 13-year-old Lucas, both victims of school bullying or homophobic, highlighted the public powerlessness to curb this scourge. If acts of violence are rare, between 800,000 and 1 million children are victims of bullying at school each year, according to the Senate report released in 2021. For her thesis, published under the title A l’école des mauvais reputations (PUF, 2023), Margot Déage, a sociologist at the Jean-Jaurès University in Toulouse, immersed herself in the relationships between middle school students through a field survey in four institutions in Paris and Ile-de-France. Middle school is a time in life marked by great conformism and extreme social control, she explains. In the intimacy of the school, teenagers judge each other: “Constantly giving your opinion on others fuels conversations.“

What are the mechanisms by which reputation is built at school?

The goal of the majority of teens is not to be noticed, because a reputation at school is often bad. It can be built in the collective unconscious through laughter, nicknames, games; or strategically, through disclosure or defamation. Disappointed in friendship or love, some young people decide to “make a reputation” for others, by releasing one or more “Dossiers” to take revenge. Scapegoats guarantee the moral worth of the rest of the group by acting as a “Lightning rod”, behind which others can continue to quietly lead their lives and experience transgressions that are “less serious” in their eyes.

Why is the line between laughter and mockery so blurred?

In order for laughter to take hold, the group must be insensitive to the student who is experiencing the hilarity. This callousness is strong in middle school, where empathy is not welcome. Derision prevails, as does the desire to show that we are there to have fun. Whoever does not go in this direction will be sidelined. In public, students say they are fine, but when we talk one-on-one, many confide that they can’t be themselves or express certain emotions such as sadness. The student may feel that a bad reputation is deserved, be aggressive in front of the group, and as an aside regret his actions and admit that he is playing a role for fear of rejection. Individualized follow-up can be a lever for education staff.