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David Servan-Schreiber advises in his books on stress, depression, and cancer to:

“Reach out to at least two friends per week for support—logistical and emotional—during times of stress, even if it’s through the internet. But if they’re within arm’s reach, go ahead and hug them—often!”

Contacting friends, colleagues, or companions is very important for our health. It helps maintain a good mood and makes us feel supported.

Spending time with friends can become more difficult over time as our older relationships fade and we slowly lose touch due to distance or life changes.

However, there are many ways to meet people—NGOs, charities, sports clubs, yoga or Pilates classes. Any shared activity can help us find new friends if we feel alone. Sometimes, it just means going out and doing something with others—we simply need to share time and see what comes from it.

Doing a language exchange is also a great way to meet people from different cultures and backgrounds.

But it’s also important to realize that the “feeling of being alone” is often a byproduct of our society, which is built on the idea of “social success”. When we see someone alone, we may quickly (and unfairly) assume that they are weak or have a problem. This perception is both incorrect and harmful.

In reality, being alone is sometimes a sign of strength. It takes courage, and it can help us reflect, reconnect with ourselves, and take steps toward building the life we truly want.

A nice, non-intrusive way to stay in touch with old friends is by sending cards—for birthdays, holidays, or celebrations. Even if someone doesn’t actively maintain contact, receiving a card is almost always a pleasant surprise.

This is a common and lovely tradition in the UK. You can find beautiful and funny cards in many shops. (Please see the related page on the card topic.)

Sending a card can bring joy—you take the time to write your thoughts, and it helps maintain a connection. It’s tangible, heartfelt, and leaves a lasting impression.

Sometimes people say, “Your best friends can be counted on one hand.” That may be true, but today we have more tools than ever—like Facebook, LinkedIn, and others—to stay in touch with a broader circle.

However, it’s also said that once you go over 150 connections, it becomes difficult to maintain deep friendships. Having 150 people in your network allows you to keep in touch with different circles—close friends, acquaintances, workmates, etc.—but keeping close relationships with all of them is simply not possible. And that’s okay.